Measure of a Man. Physical

On a physical level a man is the male Homo Sapien. Sexual dimorphism is a thing in the human species. Males tend to be larger and with that there is a physical aspect evolved with be a man.  Not every man is stronger than every woman of course, but if you took a random 1000 people and choose the strongest out of the group it would almost certainly be a man. This trait is the culmination of millions of years of acting as fighter, hunter and protector. Those traits are not modern or put there be society, they are biologically programmed.

Physical size has been a constant theme in our history. Man was afraid of the rumored Giants from a far off lands. We had to fight off the big cats or pack of wolves. We need size and strength combined with our brains. We had to protect those that couldn’t protect themselves and we needed that body to do so.

A man’s size is no longer the primary way of measuring a man. In fact is probably has never been the primary way of measure.  Larger social groups favor more than just physical capabilities. Size alone is less valuable than it would be in a simpler species. As society and cultures have adapted, size and strength alone doesn’t cut it. Today an accountant may be more valuable than a large man that can unload a truck quickly.

But physical capabilities are still a large area of measure. Men still size each other up at introduction and it still seems to come into play with mate choice. Without a doubt physical is a measure of a man. It shows his health. It can show his ability to do work. His ability to provide. His ability to defend or attack.

In the quest to be a better man, the physical aspects should not be ignored. To be the best man you can be means also to be has fit as you can be within reason. Being in shape shows respect for yourself and pride in your capabilities. It shows others that you are capable. It helps you avoid injury when you need to accomplish tasks with physical aspects. It can even dissuade attacks as criminals tend to target people that won’t cause them problems.

A standard workout regiment also has many positive benefits for psychologically. Setting goals, working towards them and accomplishment re-enforces self esteem. Regular workouts promote healthy sleep. Working out also promotes the production testosterone, the most prominent males sex hormones, known to effect many aspects of the male health and well-being.

I believe the measure of a man is based on whet they control. The world of men is the construction of order, including the order of their own bodies. In that it may not be fair to measure a man by their height. Men may differ on how stocky they are or how thin their build simply through genetics. There are different ideas of strong. There are things that are out of the owners control. But it is pretty easy to make out a body that is valued by the being that inhabits it. It seems pretty justifiable to measure them by their care for themselves. Someone who does respect themselves enough to keep their body as best they can is seen to fall short in the world of men.

The physical measure of men is a real thing and it is constant though often times ignored by those that don’t care to see the truth. You as a male are judged by men and women or how well you keep the meat sack you walk around in. The most wonderful thing about that fact though, is it probably the most easy part of who you are to set straight. Perfection is unattainable, but best with what you have is always respectable and is always in your grasp.

Measure of a Man. Start of a series.

Manhood is  a term used often. People joke of “mancards” being revoked. People chide other about acting “unmanly”. Manhood gets connected to all kinds of things,  sexual preference for instance. But I am friends with many masculine gay men. Manhood and masculinity is on of those things were “I know it when I see it” is applicable.

This site is all about building an understanding of manhood. In this series I want to explore the measure of manliness. Offer perspectives that I have come to find. In no way do I think I am qualified to produce some grand measure of manhood. There are probably a billion ways to explore the idea. Still I’d like to share some things I have thought about when measuring myself and others.

It all could end up as utter garbage typed out by a fool. But even and earthworm can pass a bit of gold through its anus (Perhaps the strangest imagery I have ever used).

Artist of the week: Ken Lusk

Ken is a long time friend of mine. He dabbles in many different mediums. He and his lovely wife have found their home in the wilds of western New Mexico. Ken captures the beauty of nature in his photographs and New Mexico’s colors in a newly ignited love of making custom frames.   Ken is also a lover of music and a musician.

Here are is some examples of his photography.

Here is an example of his framing work. I don’t know the pictures artist, but the image and frame combination is wonderful.

Some of his works are available through

Mountains, do you know yours?

Mountains seem simple, an uplift, signs of volcanic activity or uneven erosion, but to humanity they have always been important. They mean safety from attackers, hiding places for outlaws and important ecosystems supporting game animals. Rough land has deterred settlement and kept these places less trafficked and more wild. They tower over many of our cities as gods or as a place for gods to stand to look down upon us. Looking up at them makes us feel small and when we find ourselves atop of them, looking down, we can again get the feeling of smallness as we see people like us looking ant-like far below.

Mountains are masses large enough for to make us feel small yet small enough for us to fathom. A mountain sized impactor ended the dinosaurs. We use them in common sayings like “He can move mountains” to define a large feat.

I am lucky enough to live in the shadow of a mountain. Sandia (Watermelon in Spanish), Bein Mur (“big mountain” to our Native Sandia Pueblo people) Dzi Nááyizí (“Moves-Around” in Navaho) this mountain has demanded attention from all that have come though the valleys that surrounded it.  At 10,000 feet the mountain captures the clouds from the sky, forcing them upwards and cooling them to precipitation. Its collected water and snow melt adds to the rivers and the underground water stores that would make life impossible otherwise.

This mountain has been a part of my life. As a child I played on its back side. It being to the west on my home, it was part of my sunset. Its forest called me to explore them. Its snowy winter backside slopes hosted snowboarding.

When I grew up and moved to the big city I found myself on the other side. The rocky grey and pinkish granite face acted as a GPS, as I can tell with a glance at the mountain were I was in the city 5000 feet below its summit. It is a place to go to take a break from the summer heat. Our family hikes its trails and hunts wild mushrooms. Pictures of adventuring in the Sandias liter my social media albums and will will be part of my families history.

Rather then to the west the mountain is now to my east.  But it is still part of the sunset as it becomes highlighted reflecting the suns final light as colors fitting of its Spanish name for watermelon.

The mountain serves as a connection to timelessness as it has been reaching to the sky far before me and will be here far after me. Living in its shadow, I have meant nothing to the mountain. The footprints I leave of its trails are nothing.

The giggles of kids going down a wooded trail are little different to the mountain than the wondering of a bear, or the careful walk of a deer. For being something that is a pile of surface crust, mountains have a way of being more than that to people. Over time we have envisioned them as the remains of fallen giants or built from the souls of the fallen. Some see the bosom of a loving mother earth. Mountains are powerful. They are defenders, providers and harsh lands, but they offer perspective and a connection to the world that is hard to fully comprehend.

If you have a mountain look up at it. Find time to explore it. Connect to it and take it all in. Understand you are not the first to gaze at it. For all of our ego a mountain is capable of making all men small both in size and in time. I think sometimes it important to be reminded of that.

First post, WTF is this?

“What is this, why is this here?”

This is a site for the betterment of men. It is not a mennist or anti-feminine. Nor is it some attempt to re-define manhood in some sort of new style.  Rather DragonflyEmpire is an attempt refine manhood. Cleanse it of the layers of cruft, understand where it has lost its way and help it towards its true tasks.

“Building Better Men for a better world.” may seem excluding, but the content on this site is open to all. This isn’t a tree house with a “Boy’s Only” sign.  The goal is a community which supports a positive, masculine image, but not at the expense of the feminine nor the denial of anyone.  It should be remembered that this is a site aimed at men, but the voices of others are appreciated. All that is asked is that all stay on a positive path. Add to the project and you are welcome. Perspective is important including the outside perspective, because of that this place is open.

It has come time to reclaim manhood from a world that wants to see it muted or transformed into “Beer and Boobs” consumer group.  It must be seen for its complexity and be further developed and that is what is to happen here.

“Ok so what is it again?”

Men aren’t just boys that grow up. Men are made. They are a collection of values, morals and skills. These are not gifted to a man at the time of puberty. These items are distilled from family legacies and stories, gained from insight, or cobbled together from experience. This is a place for those things to be shared.

Often time males are told to “act like a man” with little explanation of what exactly that is. The goal of this community is to give some amount of guidance in that area as that answer is not a simple one. With an “always an amateur” mentality this will be a place for all to learn and will hopefully become a resource to all of the people that care to take part in the process.

This is not a hyper-masculinity site, nor a site built on shaming or degrading others for any purpose. Action and ideas may be points of discussion. To improve in any aspect you have to have an idea of “better” People’s uncontrollable qualities will not be questioned of belittled. The theme is “masculine” not Asshole. This is not to be a hate site, men are defined by actions not by race, creed or sexuality.

“I want to be part of that!”

Great, the site is starting now. As it develops it will need help to grow. It will need content and active participation. How the content will be added and what processes it will go through are still being figured out, but we will get there.

“Who are you?”

I am Zarathustra. I am the chief moderator of this site. The voice of the site. I act as a content producer but also as voice to handle the site. Other moderators and contributors will be added as thing continue.

“What makes you an expert at manhood?”

I am not, I am always an amateur. Let’s learn to be better men together.